Our Impulses towards our Clients

Stephen Tame

Date: 19/01/2019
10:00 am – 5:00 pm


Our Impulses towards our Clients – A training workshop with Stephen Tame
Saturday January 19th Bovey Tracey, Devon
A workshop for psychotherapists, counsellors and related practitioners, exploring how the strange and uncomfortable impulses we have towards our clients can become jewels of clarity and change.How can we make sense and creative use of our uncomfortable responses to our clients?
We will often experience unusual and strange impulses, often in our bodies, which can be difficult to admit to, make sense of, and use therapeutically.
These impulses can be taken as opportunities to support the unfolding of our clients’ therapeutic process (rather than dismissed as irrelevant, or turned on ourselves as evidence of our unfitness to practice!)This workshop, led by an experienced relational body psychotherapist, is a chance to explore these experiences, and offers a safe container to experiment with offering these impulses in the service of our clients’ work.
For any questions or queries, and to book, contact Stephen here:

Early booking recommended

The Old Manse
Mary Street
Bovey Tracey
TQ13 9HQ

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Cost: £70


17/11/2018 – 18/11/2018
10:00 am – 5:00 pm

Relational Body Psychotherapy – an ERT Approach

The Old Manse, Bovey Tracey Devon
Facilitated by Jayne Johnson and Stephen Tame

This weekend workshop enables you to get inside and inhabit the four stages of the Embodied-Relational Therapy framework; exploring contact, gathering information, amplifying and integration. it can deepen and expand your current practice, and is an excellent chance to dip your toes in the waters of ERT if you are considering the 2019 ERT Training, led by Jayne and Stephen.
Click here for further information
or contact Stephen Tame at
Event website


01/12/2018 – 03/03/2019
10:00 am – 5:00 pm

Group Facilitation Training

The Old Manse, Bovey Tracey Devon
Facilitated by Jayne Johnson and Stephen Tame

An 8 Day Group Facilitation Training
Sat 1st – Sun 2nd Dec 2018,
Fri 4th – Sun 6th Jan 2019,   Fri 1st – Sun 3 Mar 2019

This course is for practitioners leading groups which process emotional and relational material. It will also be useful to trainers and group facilitators in a variety of fields, some examples of these include: counselling, psychotherapy, homoeopathy, wilderness leadership, mindfulness, coaching, yoga, shamanic practice, osteopathy, massage, training for trainers.

You will need a level of awareness of your own emotional and relational processes, and a capacity to tolerate a wide range of group relational interactions.
The course will include:

  • Creating the conditions – setting the conditions for a successful group
  • Personal and group process work, facilitated by Stephen & Jayne
  • Opportunities for course members to facilitate the group
  • Supervision on your own group facilitation work
  • Creative approaches to groupwork, including, for example; channel changing, bodywork, group sculpting, energy awareness, split group and individual work
  • Working with polarisation, chaos, and conflict
  • Speaking the unspeakable
  • Developing your own facilitation style

Click here for further information
or contact Stephen Tame at
Event website

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Feedback from previous workshops:

“I got a real insight into shifts that could happen with this approach for me and my client”

One of the things I appreciated most about the weekend was the invitation to develop my own practice through the training, to explore relationships to the material starting from what I already do. It felt nurturing and encouraging to have the space to do so.

“I came away with an encouraged, exciting feeling of how my training in counselling/psychotherapy can complement my practise. I enjoyed every moment. A big  Thank you”

“I loved the training day….I felt I was in very good hands with an experienced and highly skilled practitioner. Great watching you work.  I enjoyed the relaxed teaching style and the encouragement to try things out and not worry about making mistakes.”

“I really enjoyed the demonstration session as it brought the days learning together. I liked that the day was very experiential with plenty of opportunities to try new ideas out.”

“I very much appreciated your calm, warm and engaging manner and style of training.”

“I really valued the relaxed and respectful atmosphere which, for me, encouraged and allowed the more spontaneous and creative (and destructive!) parts of me to be felt and be expressed.”

“I feel newly inspired about the value, and potential, of two people in a room exploring how they come into contact. Thank you!”

“Very enjoyable and enriching day, thank you Stephen”

“It felt like there was a lot of permission and support”

“It felt very safe to try new things”

“Thank you for a very enlightening day which will certainly enhance my practice”

“Thank you so much! I have a better understanding of embodied-counter-transference and how to use it more skillfully in my work with clients…”

“The day was enjoyable & incredibly valuable…”

“I have learnt so much today that I can use with future clients”MalhamskysliverA wide range of Embodied-Relational Therapy workshops and trainings can be found on our website:

MalhamskysliverOne or two of Stephen’s previous workshops:

Wild Therapy Weekend Training Workshop
Allison Priestman and Stephen Tame  – October 2018

“My clients are human animals, interdependent with the plants, animals, soil, bacteria and other non-human beings around them. They yearn for connection with nature, they grieve the loss of other-than-human life.”

Take the chance to experience and include the other-than-human in therapeutic work
This weekend workshop offers you the opportunity to undomesticate your practice – to include the wild in your work, both indoors and outdoors, in your mind and in your body, and in the connection you offer to those you work with.
It is also an ideal taster for the One Year Wild Therapy training, originally created by Nick Totton, author of ‘Wild Therapy’ and led in 2019 by Allison and Stephen.For some notion of Stephen’s approach to Wild Therapy – listen to a recent podcast interview here:
Wild Therapy – bringing therapy into the wild, and the wild into therapy
 January 2018 – the Hearthside Room – Devon
Movement in the Therapy room

Supporting you to introduce and develop your use of movement, proximity, gesture and impulse into work with clients
January 2018 – the Hearthside Room – Devon
Making Mistakes in the Therapy Room
Embracing the richness of mistakes, and engaging with the physiological story of our response to mistakes in client work.

November 2017 – the Hearthside Room – Devon
Breathwork in Counselling and psychotherapy

Learn how to deepen your use of breathwork in client sessions

MalhamskysliverFebruary 2018 – United Medical and Dental College, Karachi, Pakistan:

Breathing as Resource – Breathing as Exploration
with Stephen Tame and Clare Raido
This workshop brings together two experienced practitioners exploring how we can consciously use breath to contain and protect ourselves, and also use it to explore, transform and release.

Relational Body Psychotherapy – an ERT Approach
with Jayne Johnson and Stephen Tame

Imposter Syndrome
with Stephen Tame and Shehla Alvi

MalhamskysliverWorking with Body Process

Heartwood Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy Training
Dartington, Devon, Saturday 21st January 2017

We have always known in our guts – that feelings, thoughts, stories and wounds are held in minds and bodies together – that body movements, sensations, impulses and posture have meaning, power and resonance.
This workshop is a chance to start to explore how we can work with this knowledge – how we can support our clients to use body sensations and experiences as vehicles for growth and healing. The workshop will combine experiential exercises with theoretical input.

Making Mistakes in the Therapy Room

mistaken therapistSt Barnabas House Counselling & Therapy Centre, September 2015

Although we aim to treat our clients with respect, empathy and clarity, we’re going to get things wrong sometimes:
We might misunderstand a client, say something clumsy, our attention will wander, we forget their name or appointment time, we push their buttons inadvertently, overstep the mark…
With the best will in the world, there are many ways things can go pear shaped.

In this experiential workshop, we will explore how to:
-Make fewer and smaller mistakes in the first place
-Feel more relaxed and comfortable about the mistakes we will make as practitioners
-Make some sense of why we make mistakes
-Handle our mistakes gracefully and openly
-Actively use the mistakes we make to deepen the therapeutic work, and to help our clients move forward
We will use individual & pair work, with group theory and discussion, to learn and to integrate our experiences.
My aim is to create a safe and stimulating learning environment. No prior knowledge or experience is assumed.

MalhamskysliverEmbodied-Relational Therapy
Jayne Johnson, Stephen Tame
November 7th-8th 2015, Hebden Bridge, Yorkshire

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Feedback from Jayne and Stephen’s recent training event: “I mean, for me, it is up there, top five of ALL the workshops, residentials, course modules, teaching events I have participated since… ever.”

 MalhamskysliverListening to my Body Telling my Client’s Story
Embodied Counter-Transference
One to One Project
Kings Lynn – 8th November 2014

How can we use our own embodiment as a resource for our client work?

How can we make sense and creative use of our intense and uncomfortable responses to our clients? This workshop aims to offer an experiential opportunity and a theoretical model to explore how we can utilize our embodied counter-transference.
When working with clients, we will often experience unusual and strange responses in our own bodies, which can be difficult to notice, make sense of, and use therapeutically. Our bodies can literally pick up unconscious material from our clients. This workshop, led by an experienced body psychotherapist, is a chance to explore these kinds of experiences, and to develop tools and techniques for accessing our embodied counter-transference, and projective identification, as a powerful resource for our work.